Tuesday, June 28, 2005

``_____.*What constitutes a true friend?! (Long).#

::: Well, taken off from some kuku webby/someone's blog page?!~ well, aniiway, its meaningful... n, kinda true... plus, its LOOOOOOOng... Enjoy...

"in my humble opinion, a true friend's one that doesn't have to be there all the time, yet IS there all the time, in your heart. you can leave him, and come back much later, picking up from exactly where you left the relationship (with lots of catching up, of course).

a true friend's one that doesn't impose his opinions on you, saying that you should be doing this, or that. or you should be thinking this, or that. pardon me but i don't think anyone of us has the right to determine what's right and what's wrong, what's natural and what's not, in the lives of others. even as i type what i think a true friend is, it's only still my opinion and how i choose to see a true friend.

others may think a true friend's one that stabs them in the back silly, and i can't say they're wrong.a true friend respects your decisions, your opinions, your personality, your character. a true friend gives you the benefit of the doubt. he tries to understand, and puts himself in your shoes. he cares for you, and will advise you when he thinks something's really wrong. yet if you choose not the heed that piece of advice, he'd still be by your side. supporting and loving you. watching your back...like zw said to me, “朋友贵知心，不贵多”.

i don't need alot of friends in my life. one, or two, who knows and understands me, is more than enough. as many other things in life, it's the quality, not the quantity. most of us have got groups of friends, cliques - they call it, that tends to dissipate with time. among these, certain individuals stay. and if you're really lucky, one of these cliques may withstand the test of time.

it's not easy to tell which would withstand the test of time, but we can tell almost immediately which won't. again in my opinion, it's those where you see backstabbing, gossiping and even betrayal within the group, that tells immediately this isn't one clique you should be wasting your time on. an occasional meet up for the fun of it is of course, only natural. but even so i wouldn't waste too much time. perhaps only if for individuals within the group i feel is worth my time.

a diversion, but imagine a scenario whereby a member of the opposite sex (or the same, if that's your cup of tea) who has been clearly interested you in, gives you an expensive gift that you like (i'm talking about having already purchased and is giving you the item, not offering to give it to you). you have also expressed to him, very clearly before, that you guys can only be friends. what would you do?i bet most would say reject. i would too. at least i would attempt to reject. but if he insists, i'd accept it and make it extremely clear to him that the next time he does that, i'd definitely not accept it again and that i am a person of my words. after which i would brush off the incident.

what's past is past. i perceive that as an act of graciousness and style, wishy-washiness is silly and unnecessary. afterall, it IS rude to reject a person's kind will, no matter what.accepting the gift graciously on the other hand, reflects good manners and tact in handling such matters (in my opinion). putting yourself in the shoes of the giver, how would you feel if someone rejects a gift that you've put much thought and effort into? the least the receiver can do is express her gratitude and appreciation, meanwhile if necessary, express her sincere but firm opinions about the giver's act of giving that particular gift.so instead of the usual thoughts of "accept the gift only if you're gonna be with him" and "it is only natural to reject the gift" (which is bull because i perceive good manners and graciousness as natural, not wishy-washiness and making a big hoo-haa out of a simple act), which all only focus on the receiver's feeling, why not think about the sender's feelings?and even if the sender has ulterior motive and would not have done that if he knew it'd get him nowhere, we don't have to scoop down to his level.and that's that. "

3:45 PM Z

Saturday, June 25, 2005

``_____.*Batman....#

aftrnoon went to hubbie's house, den chit chat wit his sis, den headed to P.S to have my breakfast and lunch and watch Batman Begins den aftr tt went to Orchard, to take hubbie's salary, yeah~!!! $$$!!! lOlx...i'm so money minded, den aftr tt came to Geylang here to eat frog porridge, my fav, yummy~~~slurp~~~

lOlx...i siao le, tml's Joanne 1st dae wrkin at Uni-club, wish her all d best...and dun b too hyper, ltr d kids all learn frm u, den u cnt gt hold obe dem le worx...

12:45 AM Z

Thursday, June 23, 2005

``_____.*sigh....#

8:16 AM Z

Wednesday, June 22, 2005

``_____.*tio tua again....#

sigh...todae tio tua by teacher again...wah lau...waited for half an hour, still nva cum...sigh...
den in d end, Pearline say we all shld go off hav liaox...lOlx...1st time sia...so cute sia...lOlx...

aniway, todae quite bored nohx...cos so sian...cum to sch so long, den havin 1st lesson nia...

todae's so long...sigh...

cum to sch so long, still nva gt to see piku and D.K, actuali, habon gt to see mani ppl nohx...all my long lost fwenx...sigh...so sian...

10:41 AM Z

Monday, June 20, 2005

``_____.*in sch....#

erm, mi nw in sch, gt nuttin to do, so cum here blog blog...todae ish d 1st dae obe term...came to sch, den piku dey all dismiss le...aniway, havin fun...cos i gt to see evry1 again...nt mani ppl changed, mayb nt even1 obe dem has changed...i kip shwin off to ppl my cute instructor frm d drummin fest thingy...lOlx...

evrybodi gt their result slip while i dun...so sad, where's my result slip?!

lOlx...went to reserved 2 locker liaox...lOlx...so kiasu horx...cos i'm like a typical s'porean...hehex...

so sad, weiming nt cummin my class animore...oh man...tOt can make fren wit him, den in d end, he no more cummin my class le...so sad ritex...wah laux...


den todae's Ying jie 1st dae obe sch, still nva gt to see her, den she go off liaox...aniway, will gt chance to see her de nohx...lOlx...

ah kor even more worst, dun even noe todae he nid to go to sch until i msg him ystdae...so blur ritex tt fellow...diaox lehx...

and last bt nt least, hapi bday Ade, lOlx...so soon, old le...

3:15 PM Z

Sunday, June 19, 2005

``_____.*back to sch again....#

lOlx...tml we're all gonna b back to sch...cnt wait to b gd frens wit wei ming...lOlx...wat imma gonna do?! wakakas!!! Cnt wait to see evry1 again...lOlx...

10:27 PM Z

Saturday, June 18, 2005

``_____.*drummin fest....#

wOw...reali had fun...kip thinkin of d rythm in my mind...and my cute instructor...lOlx...took pics of dem too, lOlx...so hapi, kip wantin to slam d drum again...lOlx...

Hapi bday D.K~!!!

she's takin on d swt 17th!!! yeah~!!!

11:26 PM Z

Friday, June 17, 2005

``_____.*so suay de....#

wah lau...todae god damn suay lorx...tot go drummin horx, slam d drum horx den can high lehx...den kena frm 2 fellow...so sick sia...i wasn't even tokin to tt gal wat, i was oni tokin to Joanne den she cum interupt...so rude of her...den wan say ppl childish, like wat Joanne say "like she dun ply like we do wen she was our age..." sick...

11:19 PM Z

Wednesday, June 15, 2005

``_____.*drummin....#

strted learnin d drum, for d drummin festival, hw great, kena sabo by own teacher...aniway, had fun, budden, hand so tired...

7:16 PM Z

Tuesday, June 14, 2005

``_____.*celebration~!.#

hapi bday Ray, yeah, went to marina to cel, me and pku bought Ice -Cream Cake, had fun, so long nva gather togather le, cos evrybodi oso bz...all owaes kena fully book de, no time for moi..

7:12 PM Z

Friday, June 10, 2005

``_____.*keKee....#

Heehee!~ im backiex !~

haha... sO long neBer bloggiex oladii... aniiway, mOii 17th's birthdaex cOmmin"~ finalli... lao le...

Geraldine work in e marina's "lOtti bOii" ... waA~ fully obe mian bao smell... haha bawu busOk!!!~ lOlx ...
went to kpopo on her!~ bz fannin loti... too bzto notice miie... kao~!
haha...

miss n love miie
D.K (>.<) <- so long no cc this trademark le riitex ?... lOlx... muackixXx

4:14 PM Z

Saturday, June 04, 2005

``_____.*.#

went to wrk at roti boy liaox...lOlx...started wrk, quite tired budden, had fun...lOlx...mus go slp le, cos sssooo tired!!!

1:36 AM Z

Thursday, June 02, 2005

``_____.*cut hair again....#

erm, went to Plaza Sing to have a hair cut at Jean Yip, service's nt bad, can try again, i have it d way i wanted it... woOoOoOhOoOoO~~~~

*lOnely g3rl feelin blue*

6:41 PM Z